10 ways to control your anger - Professional expert’s advice


I am really emotional and excitable person. I think that there are two types of anger: constructive anger and a destructive one. In order to understand the anger phenomenon I decided to investigate the nature of anger, reasons of its appearing, key factors and anger management.

What does it mean this anger? Anger is a strong indignation feeling of our emotional sphere that is attended by self-control losing. Anger is a signal of our state. Glands produce an array of hormones that have a great and deep effect on all our body. The main participants of this process are adrenaline and cortisol. They activate cardiovascular system and consequently all organs. Adrenalin causes fast heart beating, rising blood pressure. These rich oxygenated blood streams to the places are responsible for reaction. Thus some extra energy is released.



There are 4 basic ways of anger expressions:



1. Straight and immediately (verbally or nonverbally) to show your anger. It gives an opportunity to free from the negative emotions.



2. To express anger in an indirect way. In this case usually suffer persons that are weaker, not dangerous and those ones who “come to hand”, usually they are our family and close relatives. Thus we hurt our dear ones. One of the best ways is to express your anger to the person who is the source of this very anger. If it is impossible- better find some compromise.



3. Restraining anger you “drive” it deep inside. So, negative emotions store will provoke a big stress sooner or later.



4. You may foresee situation of anger feeling, try not to expand this feeling but get to know the reason, understand and solve it. A Roman philosopher Seneca said: “When you are feeling of ascending “volcano”- stand still, not doing anything- not speaking, not moving.”



Anger is a normal and natural human feeling, especially nowadays as life is really fast and we have a huge amount of information to accumulate (in comparison with our previous generations). The range of anger is rather wide: from a slight annoyance to impetuous fury. Anger can be quick and long, lasting for years in form of bitterness, vengeance or hate. Anger can lead to health issues like depression, high blood pressure, hearth diseases, stresses, alcohol dependence and obesity. If you are anger- express it. If you feel discomfort from these “negative splashes”- then we can give some techniques how to manage your emotional anger:




  • 1. Take a deep and continuous breath. Count up to 50 or imagine your aggressor just naked, only in socks. This will help you to calm and smile.



  • 2. Have a walk. Look at high sky. Continue to breathe deep and easily. So you appraise the situation and calm down.

  • 3. Do some physical exercises. When you are angry- your body is very tensed and tough. If you stretch your muscles it will relax your body, as you will spill out all your negative energy into action. Your brains will get more oxygen and it assists to clear your thoughts.

  • 4. Write down all your thoughts. Write down that you are mad and why. Avoid being rational, logical or laconic. Write on paper all you are feeling this moment. Try to write all in details. The function of this technique is to shift all your anger out of your head on paper.

  • 5. Be grateful. Find someone to thank. Do you not forget about yourself. Thank that you have woken up today, thank that that the Sun is shining for you, that the sky is blue and the grass is green.

  • 6. Prayer. Ask God to be with you during this anger moment and lead you.

  • 7. Meditation. Close your eyes, look into solar plexus, and be all your anger, breathing deeply.

  • 8. Change of places. Move yourself on your enemy’s place. And look at situation from his point of view. Better look at the situation from the ceiling. Focus on details, especially on funny and absurd ones. Strive to forgive your enemy as well as forgive truly yourself.

  • 9. Go back to your childhood memories. Recollect state when you were angry. Hug this child and say: “All is ok. I am here. You are good child. I love you and I will not leave you.”

  • 10. Your values. What is the most significant thing in your life? Who are the most important people in your life? What kind of person do you want to be? Think and accept that point that you are living your life, and you are living your values. There is a good man inside you that wants to help you. I wish you good luck!



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Monday, February 15, 2010

Welcome to our Spiritual Globe

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When I was a child I was absolutely sure that God, Jesus Christ, angels and the rest were people like me, like we all are. They were the same children, that eat, sleep and play, cry and laugh, are anger and happy… With the time this faith was disappearing – they said that I was growing and entering the adult life. Once upon a day I woke up in the morning and realized that all those things I trusted in my childhood are just a myth, illusion… They do not exist.

Now I want to look back and open my child that still lives inside me, that lives inside every person. He is just hid in a safe corner. Parents, school and university “did their best” to kill this child, my entity, my essence. Now I want to look at things with my own eyes, now I want to drift to my own nature.

Then an idea occurred to my mind to open this Blog as I thought that other people might have the same questions and ideas about this as I do. Our credo- is seeking for enlightenment. As even a profound and an old wisdom runs as follows: “seek and ye shall find”.

Important: no templates, no standards.

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50 comments:

Anonymous said...

Nice story

Stuart - SecludedHabitat said...

Heya,
I have to say it is true, over time our experiences in life can really kill off the beliefs and ideals we have as children.

I myself became an athiest, so I have really yet to re-find my spiritual feet. But I feel that like you mine was killed off over time.

You bring up some really interesting thoughts. I look forward to reading more in the future.
Stuart

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Great blog you have here! A lot of great spiritual information :)

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Felmar said...

nice blog! interesting post!

gt said...

Found you from DP (gtull1 here).

I know what you mean. Sometimes kids do have it right. Rationalization seeks to destroy what can not be proven by science. Wisdom seeks to accept that everything is not discoverable by science.

-Wendy- said...

if all of us have the faith and imagination of a child, the world will definitely be a better place. I remember Jesus saying "... you have to be like a child to be able to enter the kingdom of God..."

Joana's Guide said...

What a wonderful spiritual blog you have. Nicely done!

Though I'm no spiritual person, I do believe in cosmic forces around us but you do touch on some really good spiritual and (personal development) stuffs. Overall a very interesting and (spiritual) refreshing read.

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Thanks for a really lovely post.

Cant say im religious but it was still a very nice read :)

Duke said...

Peace be with the moderator, as well as those reading this message.(if this is not censored :-)
The time has come.
I am here to bring judgment to the living and the dead. The harvest is ripe. Pass this message on to fellow believers.
There is 'love'and 'hate', then there is love.

The Faithful Witness
Duke

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It is a nice article about religion. I recommend it to my friends. I am not very religious but good article anyway.

Gadis said...

beautiful :) touch my heart

Barry Wheeler said...

Thank you for the great article. You have given my wife and I things to think about. We were searching for some words of encouragement on this day, a day when we have to remember a loved one that we have lost just 2 years ago, taken from us a young age.

Wildridge said...

HI,

I am happy that there is a blog like this. Its give some encourage as we spend to much time in work.

itznice said...

Yeah it's true, I have think like that while I child, and every children may have a thought like that, It's our task as a parent to give the right elementary knowledge about our God :)

Tropical Fish said...

I am happy that you have connected so deeply with your religious side. It saddens me to see so much hate, violence and greed perpetrated in the name of God/Allah/etc. Please keep the intent of the religion close to you so you do not fall into those traps.

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Upon thorough examination you will come upon the "Dragnet Effect"(this is a true story the names have been
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I love your blog.
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Austin Kassler said...

It is true... Spirituality disappears with time, but doesn't it feel so good when you get that "spark" back in your life.

MetropolisMom said...

I agree with you. I also have some beliefs during childhood that were killed because of maturity. I also wish to be back to my childhood sometimes when you need not to worry anything because you always feel that you will be protected. I guess we need to face the fact that in reality, there are some things in childhood that are not really non existent but made us believed they are existing just to establish a value or a culture. Cheers! I love your post.

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Yash said...

" Parents, school and university “did their best” to kill this child, my entity, my essence." You are absolutely right , but actually there is child inside you which forces to recover those child thoughts & think are we literally a human ?

Alice Hobbs said...

Yash, thank you for your comment.
As for the human beings, yes we are all human beings. This is 100 %. But, also yes- we sometimes behave like monsters. We forget about our mission on this Earth- to live, be happy and smile. We hurt our beloved ones, we offend our friends, we insult women… we are doing all these things. People kill people only to satisfy their ego. This is not human at all. This is a real tragedy.
If you are ready, you can recover your child thoughts. The only thing you need- your wish. Want= can=do!!! Be honest with yourself and any question you ask- you will get the answer. When every human being changes his/ her inner world and turns to the human factor, then the whole world will sing in unison with the melody of the heart.

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yes, you have some true words and sense, but i can't apply all fro myself. i'm not agree with all. imho.

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demain said...

Thanks... Nice blog ! And I hope the world will become more spiritual...

ScribbleJoint said...

I was once on a path to becoming an atheist. Good thing I attended a bible study and it cleared many things I did not understand/misunderstood.

Young generations these days do not know God very well.

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NAUMAN said...

Well believing in spiritual beliefs can be good as well as a bad experience.I have been thru things which made me not to believe in spirituality.
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ForbrukslÄn said...

"we insult women"...? What..? What about the guys, dont they get insulted as well?

masini said...

God is everywhere. The important thing is to believe in it.

QwertyWEB said...

it is a very interesting article about religion really touched my heart . I am very religious ,
very inspiring

msafi said...

Thanks for the blog. It inspiring and I'm sure it will touch a lot of people and make them think...

Timothy said...

I myself am an atheist and have been all my life. I look forward to reading more of your thoughts in the future.

financialfreedom said...

Really heartwarming story.

I sometimes feel that this is what the adult world does to the child like faith that actually exists in all of us.

Joseph Roland U. said...

One must have a good job
to have a work and feed his family and can follow the word of God.

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larrsmith07 said...

Great post you just did!! i am admiring these kind of post..because i am true believer of God!..and your post let me remember all my worst and best experiences in life which i will never forget!!,so thanks to this!!

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Do you feel that there is a connection between the different religions?

Marizka said...

I think you lost your faith, that's what religion is about, faith!!

TCM said...

I believe that is a familiar story to all of us in the childhood. The same is true to me. I miss that innocent time when I was not that real like me now. I don't like the me now inside my body, which is timid, false and greedy. Anyway, that is the process we have to go through in a life, I assume.

Anonymous said...

beliefs change with maturity and if we have experiences that validate the beliefs that we have programmed ourselves to have then the further ingrained the belief so how to validate spiritual beliefs well try and open yourself to experiences that will do just that validate your belief I hope that makes sense

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Everyone needs faith. Nice story.

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