10 ways to control your anger - Professional expert’s advice


I am really emotional and excitable person. I think that there are two types of anger: constructive anger and a destructive one. In order to understand the anger phenomenon I decided to investigate the nature of anger, reasons of its appearing, key factors and anger management.

What does it mean this anger? Anger is a strong indignation feeling of our emotional sphere that is attended by self-control losing. Anger is a signal of our state. Glands produce an array of hormones that have a great and deep effect on all our body. The main participants of this process are adrenaline and cortisol. They activate cardiovascular system and consequently all organs. Adrenalin causes fast heart beating, rising blood pressure. These rich oxygenated blood streams to the places are responsible for reaction. Thus some extra energy is released.



There are 4 basic ways of anger expressions:



1. Straight and immediately (verbally or nonverbally) to show your anger. It gives an opportunity to free from the negative emotions.



2. To express anger in an indirect way. In this case usually suffer persons that are weaker, not dangerous and those ones who “come to hand”, usually they are our family and close relatives. Thus we hurt our dear ones. One of the best ways is to express your anger to the person who is the source of this very anger. If it is impossible- better find some compromise.



3. Restraining anger you “drive” it deep inside. So, negative emotions store will provoke a big stress sooner or later.



4. You may foresee situation of anger feeling, try not to expand this feeling but get to know the reason, understand and solve it. A Roman philosopher Seneca said: “When you are feeling of ascending “volcano”- stand still, not doing anything- not speaking, not moving.”



Anger is a normal and natural human feeling, especially nowadays as life is really fast and we have a huge amount of information to accumulate (in comparison with our previous generations). The range of anger is rather wide: from a slight annoyance to impetuous fury. Anger can be quick and long, lasting for years in form of bitterness, vengeance or hate. Anger can lead to health issues like depression, high blood pressure, hearth diseases, stresses, alcohol dependence and obesity. If you are anger- express it. If you feel discomfort from these “negative splashes”- then we can give some techniques how to manage your emotional anger:




  • 1. Take a deep and continuous breath. Count up to 50 or imagine your aggressor just naked, only in socks. This will help you to calm and smile.



  • 2. Have a walk. Look at high sky. Continue to breathe deep and easily. So you appraise the situation and calm down.

  • 3. Do some physical exercises. When you are angry- your body is very tensed and tough. If you stretch your muscles it will relax your body, as you will spill out all your negative energy into action. Your brains will get more oxygen and it assists to clear your thoughts.

  • 4. Write down all your thoughts. Write down that you are mad and why. Avoid being rational, logical or laconic. Write on paper all you are feeling this moment. Try to write all in details. The function of this technique is to shift all your anger out of your head on paper.

  • 5. Be grateful. Find someone to thank. Do you not forget about yourself. Thank that you have woken up today, thank that that the Sun is shining for you, that the sky is blue and the grass is green.

  • 6. Prayer. Ask God to be with you during this anger moment and lead you.

  • 7. Meditation. Close your eyes, look into solar plexus, and be all your anger, breathing deeply.

  • 8. Change of places. Move yourself on your enemy’s place. And look at situation from his point of view. Better look at the situation from the ceiling. Focus on details, especially on funny and absurd ones. Strive to forgive your enemy as well as forgive truly yourself.

  • 9. Go back to your childhood memories. Recollect state when you were angry. Hug this child and say: “All is ok. I am here. You are good child. I love you and I will not leave you.”

  • 10. Your values. What is the most significant thing in your life? Who are the most important people in your life? What kind of person do you want to be? Think and accept that point that you are living your life, and you are living your values. There is a good man inside you that wants to help you. I wish you good luck!



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Thursday, December 18, 2008

The Seven Spiritual Law of Success – The Unseen Lessons from Nature

Nature and the lessons it has to teach us can reveal a lot about the seven spiritual laws of success. Make an appointment with yourself to spend some time in the natural world open to the lessons that you can learn.

Nature is abundance

As you spend some time immersed in the natural world you will start to appreciate its diversity and complexity. The more you look, the more you will see just how much diversity has been created by nature, how infinitely abundant nature is.

You can see it in the diversity of plants and animals that surround you, in the magnificence and grandeur of scenery, in the vastness of a starry sky over your head, in the breathtaking beauty of a sunrise or a sunset.

As you spend time in nature you will also gain a greater feeling of unity with nature. You will realise that you are in harmony with the laws that govern nature and that these laws will govern your life.

Natural laws apply to your life

At the level of the rational mind the laws of nature are powerful models on which you can base your life. At the spiritual web designer natural laws are a integral part of your existence. Irrespective of your point of view, your life will become more fulfilled and successful as you understand the laws of nature.

Study nature and you will understand the natural laws. Reflect on how they apply in your life. Here are some pointers to help you get started.

Nature left alone is in dynamic balance. Nature has created entire ecosystems where the land, the environment, plants and animals all exist in a dynamic balance each other, each with a perfect role. The metaphor of balance should apply in your life. You need to balance all the different aspects of your life, mind, body, relationships, material existence and spirit.

Nature is cyclical. You can see this in so many different ways at so many different timescales. One cycle we are familiar with seasons – spring, summer, fall, winter. Another is the cycle of life – birth, growth, maturity, reproduction, death. Recognise that much of your life and what you try to do in it is governed by cycles that are mirrored in nature.

Nature is beautiful, grandiose, awesome. You are too

Nature has infinite potential and infinite abundance. Understanding this will remind you of your potential as a human being to create whatever you want from the infinite potential that surrounds you.

Spending time with nature is a spiritually refreshing and uplifting experience. Make time in your life to spend time with nature. You could contemplate the beauty of a garden, a stream or a flower. You spend weeks travelling through nature to become fully immersed in nature’s abundance and potential. Any experience is valid.

The seven spiritual laws of success are built upon natural principles. You can build these natural principles into your life as a bedrock for your path to future prosperity and happiness.

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