10 ways to control your anger - Professional expert’s advice


I am really emotional and excitable person. I think that there are two types of anger: constructive anger and a destructive one. In order to understand the anger phenomenon I decided to investigate the nature of anger, reasons of its appearing, key factors and anger management.

What does it mean this anger? Anger is a strong indignation feeling of our emotional sphere that is attended by self-control losing. Anger is a signal of our state. Glands produce an array of hormones that have a great and deep effect on all our body. The main participants of this process are adrenaline and cortisol. They activate cardiovascular system and consequently all organs. Adrenalin causes fast heart beating, rising blood pressure. These rich oxygenated blood streams to the places are responsible for reaction. Thus some extra energy is released.



There are 4 basic ways of anger expressions:



1. Straight and immediately (verbally or nonverbally) to show your anger. It gives an opportunity to free from the negative emotions.



2. To express anger in an indirect way. In this case usually suffer persons that are weaker, not dangerous and those ones who “come to hand”, usually they are our family and close relatives. Thus we hurt our dear ones. One of the best ways is to express your anger to the person who is the source of this very anger. If it is impossible- better find some compromise.



3. Restraining anger you “drive” it deep inside. So, negative emotions store will provoke a big stress sooner or later.



4. You may foresee situation of anger feeling, try not to expand this feeling but get to know the reason, understand and solve it. A Roman philosopher Seneca said: “When you are feeling of ascending “volcano”- stand still, not doing anything- not speaking, not moving.”



Anger is a normal and natural human feeling, especially nowadays as life is really fast and we have a huge amount of information to accumulate (in comparison with our previous generations). The range of anger is rather wide: from a slight annoyance to impetuous fury. Anger can be quick and long, lasting for years in form of bitterness, vengeance or hate. Anger can lead to health issues like depression, high blood pressure, hearth diseases, stresses, alcohol dependence and obesity. If you are anger- express it. If you feel discomfort from these “negative splashes”- then we can give some techniques how to manage your emotional anger:




  • 1. Take a deep and continuous breath. Count up to 50 or imagine your aggressor just naked, only in socks. This will help you to calm and smile.



  • 2. Have a walk. Look at high sky. Continue to breathe deep and easily. So you appraise the situation and calm down.

  • 3. Do some physical exercises. When you are angry- your body is very tensed and tough. If you stretch your muscles it will relax your body, as you will spill out all your negative energy into action. Your brains will get more oxygen and it assists to clear your thoughts.

  • 4. Write down all your thoughts. Write down that you are mad and why. Avoid being rational, logical or laconic. Write on paper all you are feeling this moment. Try to write all in details. The function of this technique is to shift all your anger out of your head on paper.

  • 5. Be grateful. Find someone to thank. Do you not forget about yourself. Thank that you have woken up today, thank that that the Sun is shining for you, that the sky is blue and the grass is green.

  • 6. Prayer. Ask God to be with you during this anger moment and lead you.

  • 7. Meditation. Close your eyes, look into solar plexus, and be all your anger, breathing deeply.

  • 8. Change of places. Move yourself on your enemy’s place. And look at situation from his point of view. Better look at the situation from the ceiling. Focus on details, especially on funny and absurd ones. Strive to forgive your enemy as well as forgive truly yourself.

  • 9. Go back to your childhood memories. Recollect state when you were angry. Hug this child and say: “All is ok. I am here. You are good child. I love you and I will not leave you.”

  • 10. Your values. What is the most significant thing in your life? Who are the most important people in your life? What kind of person do you want to be? Think and accept that point that you are living your life, and you are living your values. There is a good man inside you that wants to help you. I wish you good luck!



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Thursday, June 12, 2008

Free Buddhism-themed films

Good response: People leaving the hall after watching films showcased during the 2006 Wesak International Film Festival.
FEW media can convey the message of hope and love in a story to the masses as effectively as the big screen.

Hence, in an effort to promote greater public understanding of Buddhism values, the second edition of the Wesak International Film Festival (WIFF) 2008 will be held this weekend and on June 22 and 23 at the Malaysia Tourism Centre in Jalan Ampang, Kuala Lumpur.

Featuring 12 films, the festival will be presenting Buddhist-themed movies and documentaries to animation and children's films.

WIFF 08 organising committee member for publicity Wong Kin Yap said the objective of the festival was to offer the cinema as a vehicle to foster wider appreciation and better understanding of Buddhism among the public.

“Building on our success in 2006, 18 Buddhist organisations have come together this year to organise this second edition of the festival which showcases the best in films on Buddhism,” said Wong.

“It is also our aim to promote peace and harmony among people.”

Of the 12 films to be screened, three will be full-length movies, namely Angulimala from Thailand, Qi Xia Temple 1937 from China and Milarepa from Tibet.

Angulimala, which was produced in 2003, tells the story of the murderer of the same name who became a disciple of Buddha, according to Buddhist scriptures.

Meanwhile, Qi Xia Temple 1937 is about the 1,500-year-old monastery that became a hiding place for thousands of terrified civilians when the Japanese army invaded the Chinese capital of Nanking in December 1937.

The film documents the temple's abbot Ji Ran's extraordinary contribution in protecting his countrymen during the war, and the fearless spirit he displayed in saving those who were suffering.

The third movie, Milarepa, which tells the story of Tibet's most famous saint, was directed by Bhutanese Neten Chopling Rinpoche.

Other featured films are 10 Questions for the Dalai Lama, Peace is Every Step, Buddha's Lost Children, Lion's Roar, Amongst White Clouds, Refuge in the Three Jewels (Discovering Buddhism Series), Fearless Mountain, Oseam (animation), and Eyes of the Little Monk (animation).

Wong said on the festival's opening night tomorrow, there would be a special performance by famed Buddhist songwriter Ravenna Michalsen from the United States who would be singing hymns.

Admission to the festival is free.

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