10 ways to control your anger - Professional expert’s advice

I am really emotional and excitable person. I think that there are two types of anger: constructive anger and a destructive one. In order to understand the anger phenomenon I decided to investigate the nature of anger, reasons of its appearing, key factors and anger management.

What does it mean this anger? Anger is a strong indignation feeling of our emotional sphere that is attended by self-control losing. Anger is a signal of our state. Glands produce an array of hormones that have a great and deep effect on all our body. The main participants of this process are adrenaline and cortisol. They activate cardiovascular system and consequently all organs. Adrenalin causes fast heart beating, rising blood pressure. These rich oxygenated blood streams to the places are responsible for reaction. Thus some extra energy is released.

There are 4 basic ways of anger expressions:

1. Straight and immediately (verbally or nonverbally) to show your anger. It gives an opportunity to free from the negative emotions.

2. To express anger in an indirect way. In this case usually suffer persons that are weaker, not dangerous and those ones who “come to hand”, usually they are our family and close relatives. Thus we hurt our dear ones. One of the best ways is to express your anger to the person who is the source of this very anger. If it is impossible- better find some compromise.

3. Restraining anger you “drive” it deep inside. So, negative emotions store will provoke a big stress sooner or later.

4. You may foresee situation of anger feeling, try not to expand this feeling but get to know the reason, understand and solve it. A Roman philosopher Seneca said: “When you are feeling of ascending “volcano”- stand still, not doing anything- not speaking, not moving.”

Anger is a normal and natural human feeling, especially nowadays as life is really fast and we have a huge amount of information to accumulate (in comparison with our previous generations). The range of anger is rather wide: from a slight annoyance to impetuous fury. Anger can be quick and long, lasting for years in form of bitterness, vengeance or hate. Anger can lead to health issues like depression, high blood pressure, hearth diseases, stresses, alcohol dependence and obesity. If you are anger- express it. If you feel discomfort from these “negative splashes”- then we can give some techniques how to manage your emotional anger:

  • 1. Take a deep and continuous breath. Count up to 50 or imagine your aggressor just naked, only in socks. This will help you to calm and smile.

  • 2. Have a walk. Look at high sky. Continue to breathe deep and easily. So you appraise the situation and calm down.

  • 3. Do some physical exercises. When you are angry- your body is very tensed and tough. If you stretch your muscles it will relax your body, as you will spill out all your negative energy into action. Your brains will get more oxygen and it assists to clear your thoughts.

  • 4. Write down all your thoughts. Write down that you are mad and why. Avoid being rational, logical or laconic. Write on paper all you are feeling this moment. Try to write all in details. The function of this technique is to shift all your anger out of your head on paper.

  • 5. Be grateful. Find someone to thank. Do you not forget about yourself. Thank that you have woken up today, thank that that the Sun is shining for you, that the sky is blue and the grass is green.

  • 6. Prayer. Ask God to be with you during this anger moment and lead you.

  • 7. Meditation. Close your eyes, look into solar plexus, and be all your anger, breathing deeply.

  • 8. Change of places. Move yourself on your enemy’s place. And look at situation from his point of view. Better look at the situation from the ceiling. Focus on details, especially on funny and absurd ones. Strive to forgive your enemy as well as forgive truly yourself.

  • 9. Go back to your childhood memories. Recollect state when you were angry. Hug this child and say: “All is ok. I am here. You are good child. I love you and I will not leave you.”

  • 10. Your values. What is the most significant thing in your life? Who are the most important people in your life? What kind of person do you want to be? Think and accept that point that you are living your life, and you are living your values. There is a good man inside you that wants to help you. I wish you good luck!

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Friday, June 20, 2008

Transurfing: Your intention and Formula of success

Reality exists beyond you, as
long as you believe it. Due to Transurfing you are
able to control reality.

I do not know what you were dreaming of, but I was dreaming in my childhood of how to manage at least a piece of the world that surrounds me. Here goes the passionate love for fairy-tales, magic wands of the neighbour`s cherry-tree and hundreds of signs and symbols. Just make a wish, cross a bridge with the closed eyes, and your wish certainly comes true. By the way, not all wishes realized but the strong desire to manage the reality remained. It is constant and unquenchable till now. Only now instead of magic wand- more serious practices. One of the most efficient practices is “Transurfing” by Vadim Zeland.

Transurfer`s revelation
We do not know how this world is organized and regulated as well as we do not know what threads to pull in order to change the world. Somebody seeks the answers either in religion or in alternative esoteric doctrines and only selected ones understand that all these answers are one and the same revelation just said with the different words. No any miracles, our subconsciousness stores all answers carefully. Fortunately, sometimes our subconsciousness gives us some gifts- instructions on how to implement our wishes into life and other basics of magic. Someone will make a religion from an occurred thought to his mind, a secret knowledge, a study or just start to put it into practice. That is why the following notions might seem very familiar to you. Somebody tells that he/ she always lived the way like this, but did not know that is called “transurfing”.

Global universal laws are common for all of us and it does not really matter what method you have chosen. Transurfing is one of the methods. This teaching is without authorities and dogmas, without initiation and regulation. Vadim Zeland does not attribute himself to the authorship; he just narrates what his own subconsciousness revealed once to him. Vadim is a bearer, not a Guru, not an Enlightened one, not a Teacher. Probably, we have to share knowledge as a real and ordinary miracle as every one of us is able to perform it. Why? Because just is able.

What does it mean this thing “intention”?
I think that a human being possesses only one freedom - is the freedom of choice. This thesis is in the basis of Transurfing teaching as well as of any other esoteric study. Nobody forbids you to choose the world you want to live in, nobody forbids you to choose any life or destiny.

Actually, there are two ways of achieving the desirable - to fight with all your strength or simply to choose. The first method is not bad, as is a fascinating game played by millions people and they get excited and enthusiastic of it. The second approach is complex and difficult by its simplicity. It means that you may choose your fate- but you must be resolute in your desire, going to get 100 % result of your wish. Here begins to work one law- all our dreams and intentions come true. Be careful in your wishes and thoughts as they come true. The moment you want something very strong – the world changes around you. Any wish, dream, intention do work. Just go and take what you want.

Transurfing helps you to think consciously in order to launch the mechanism of intention any time and place. We can define intention as “thought or idea that transfers into strong desire or wish in order to have something and act resolutely”. If you see, understand and believing in this simple invocation as well as put it into practice, then you bravely reshape reality on your own fashion. Now you have a unique formula of success in your hands. See more what is going on in “Illusion in mirror and slides of your life”.

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