10 ways to control your anger - Professional expert’s advice


I am really emotional and excitable person. I think that there are two types of anger: constructive anger and a destructive one. In order to understand the anger phenomenon I decided to investigate the nature of anger, reasons of its appearing, key factors and anger management.

What does it mean this anger? Anger is a strong indignation feeling of our emotional sphere that is attended by self-control losing. Anger is a signal of our state. Glands produce an array of hormones that have a great and deep effect on all our body. The main participants of this process are adrenaline and cortisol. They activate cardiovascular system and consequently all organs. Adrenalin causes fast heart beating, rising blood pressure. These rich oxygenated blood streams to the places are responsible for reaction. Thus some extra energy is released.



There are 4 basic ways of anger expressions:



1. Straight and immediately (verbally or nonverbally) to show your anger. It gives an opportunity to free from the negative emotions.



2. To express anger in an indirect way. In this case usually suffer persons that are weaker, not dangerous and those ones who “come to hand”, usually they are our family and close relatives. Thus we hurt our dear ones. One of the best ways is to express your anger to the person who is the source of this very anger. If it is impossible- better find some compromise.



3. Restraining anger you “drive” it deep inside. So, negative emotions store will provoke a big stress sooner or later.



4. You may foresee situation of anger feeling, try not to expand this feeling but get to know the reason, understand and solve it. A Roman philosopher Seneca said: “When you are feeling of ascending “volcano”- stand still, not doing anything- not speaking, not moving.”



Anger is a normal and natural human feeling, especially nowadays as life is really fast and we have a huge amount of information to accumulate (in comparison with our previous generations). The range of anger is rather wide: from a slight annoyance to impetuous fury. Anger can be quick and long, lasting for years in form of bitterness, vengeance or hate. Anger can lead to health issues like depression, high blood pressure, hearth diseases, stresses, alcohol dependence and obesity. If you are anger- express it. If you feel discomfort from these “negative splashes”- then we can give some techniques how to manage your emotional anger:




  • 1. Take a deep and continuous breath. Count up to 50 or imagine your aggressor just naked, only in socks. This will help you to calm and smile.



  • 2. Have a walk. Look at high sky. Continue to breathe deep and easily. So you appraise the situation and calm down.

  • 3. Do some physical exercises. When you are angry- your body is very tensed and tough. If you stretch your muscles it will relax your body, as you will spill out all your negative energy into action. Your brains will get more oxygen and it assists to clear your thoughts.

  • 4. Write down all your thoughts. Write down that you are mad and why. Avoid being rational, logical or laconic. Write on paper all you are feeling this moment. Try to write all in details. The function of this technique is to shift all your anger out of your head on paper.

  • 5. Be grateful. Find someone to thank. Do you not forget about yourself. Thank that you have woken up today, thank that that the Sun is shining for you, that the sky is blue and the grass is green.

  • 6. Prayer. Ask God to be with you during this anger moment and lead you.

  • 7. Meditation. Close your eyes, look into solar plexus, and be all your anger, breathing deeply.

  • 8. Change of places. Move yourself on your enemy’s place. And look at situation from his point of view. Better look at the situation from the ceiling. Focus on details, especially on funny and absurd ones. Strive to forgive your enemy as well as forgive truly yourself.

  • 9. Go back to your childhood memories. Recollect state when you were angry. Hug this child and say: “All is ok. I am here. You are good child. I love you and I will not leave you.”

  • 10. Your values. What is the most significant thing in your life? Who are the most important people in your life? What kind of person do you want to be? Think and accept that point that you are living your life, and you are living your values. There is a good man inside you that wants to help you. I wish you good luck!



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Sunday, February 01, 2009

Gaia and the Meaning of Life

In and through community lies the salvation of the world.
- M. Scott Peck

Perhaps you remember when, in 1983, scientist Peter Russell published The Global Brain, a pioneering work on the role of connectedness, community, and social networks to the future of consciousness on planet Earth.

In it, Russell described how the connections of billions of neurons in the human brain led to the emergence of consciousness on the planet-something never before seen in our solar system. He then looked at the growing number of human beings on the planet, and made a startling prediction.

Building on James Lovelock's Gaia Hypothesis (the theory that the Earth itself is a living entity, complete with its own rhythms and processes) Russell speculated that, just as the connection of billions of neurons in the frontal lobes of the human brain coincided with the emergence of individual self-awareness on the planet, the intentional connection between billions of human beings would lead to the unfolding of a new consciousness-the awakening of Gaia as a whole.

Now, just two decades later, we're watching his predictions unfold.

Of course, since the 1960s we've seen a growing interest in spiritual, social and environmental awareness. While the growing numbers of those who understand the connection between personal and planetary well-being does represent an ongoing shift in the way we interact with the world, it's still a shift that started decades ago.

Today, however, something else is emerging-something that mirrors this internal shift. What's unique about this current change in our relationship with ourselves and our environment-the shift from an individualistic mindset to one of community, connectedness, and shared understanding-is that it's occurring not just within us, but on the outside as well.

Finally, our very technologies are playing a role in this transformation.

Think of it. Over the past few years, the Internet itself has undergone a drastic change. Once used just to trade information, the online world is transforming into what's known as Web 2.0-the social web. Today, instead of being used to transfer data, technology is being used in service of relationships-to join people around the world, to discover new connections, and to deepen our understanding and care of those on the other side of the globe. This shift-from connections driven by information to networks based in values-is exactly what Russell predicted.

And so the synergy of these two phenomena-that is, the profound internal shift driving the popularity of works such as The Secret and Eckhart Tolle's Stillness Speaks and the emergence of the social web-represents something never before seen. Earlier spiritual movements on the planet moved slowly, spreading from group to group in isolated pockets, or appearing in small pockets in certain nations, but what we're seeing today is an undeniably global phenomenon. Through the miracle of the Internet, we can immediately share not just information, but wisdom, care, concern, and compassion with those around the world.

We Are The Ones We Have Been Waiting For

It is possible that the next Buddha will not take the form of an individual. The next Buddha may take the form of a community…
- Thich Nhat Hanh.


Of course, it's not just science that has anticipated this awakening. The venerable Buddhist monk, Thich Nant Hahn, made the same prediction using different language when he wrote that "the next Buddha may be a sangha;" that is, that the next instantiation of an awakened being on the planet may not come as an individual, but in and through community. (And is it any coincidence that here in the United States we have just nominated a 'community organizer,' rather than a CEO or war hero, as our President Elect?)

Unlike science, though, spirituality gives us direction and suggestions for how to help ease this emergence. There are countless new spiritual books, like A New Earth and Conversations with God, that encourage us to look for answers not from some outside authority, but to push into our own hearts and divine our own unique purposes.

Those of us who take up this route frequently come to the shared realization that the call of our hearts and the call of the planet are the same-and that by tapping deeply enough into our deepest desires we'll discover they mesh perfectly with the needs of the world as a whole.

And so this awakening bodes well for our collective future. In any healthy, productive, and peaceful society, the actions of each member are naturally aligned with the needs of the group. This arrangement doesn't need to be planned or coerced. Instead, it's the simple result of a shared perspective among the group members-a perspective that includes a deep understanding of the interdependence between each person and the community as a whole.

It's always been easy to bring this about in small groups, but for the first time ever we're seeing it occur around the world. Something significant is unfolding.

But What Does it Mean? And What Next?

For a cell in our body to survive, it must understand its purpose. Neurons that lack connections with other cells in the brain eventually atrophy, and cells that can't find their place within the greater system whither away.

Similarly, for an organism to survive, it's crucial that each cell that makes it up understands its role. It's important that each connects with the cells around it, and 'understands' its place in the health of the greater system.

And of course, the health of the cell itself depends on the integrity and well-being of the larger organism. The one enhances and depends on the other, and vice versa.

So, it's crucial that each of us discover our own unique and irreplaceable role within Gaia, and that we each understand that we serve an important purpose on the Earth. This answer-which is necessarily as alive and flowing as each of us!-isn't going to come from a book or article, but from exploring the community around you and determining what needs to be done, and delving within yourself to see what you're most called to do. Because your discovery and pursuit of your passion and your path is important not just for your own health and satisfaction, but for the furthering of the whole human process, and for the life of the incredible sphere that we're each so inextricably a part of.

By: Gaia Community

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