10 ways to control your anger - Professional expert’s advice

I am really emotional and excitable person. I think that there are two types of anger: constructive anger and a destructive one. In order to understand the anger phenomenon I decided to investigate the nature of anger, reasons of its appearing, key factors and anger management.

What does it mean this anger? Anger is a strong indignation feeling of our emotional sphere that is attended by self-control losing. Anger is a signal of our state. Glands produce an array of hormones that have a great and deep effect on all our body. The main participants of this process are adrenaline and cortisol. They activate cardiovascular system and consequently all organs. Adrenalin causes fast heart beating, rising blood pressure. These rich oxygenated blood streams to the places are responsible for reaction. Thus some extra energy is released.

There are 4 basic ways of anger expressions:

1. Straight and immediately (verbally or nonverbally) to show your anger. It gives an opportunity to free from the negative emotions.

2. To express anger in an indirect way. In this case usually suffer persons that are weaker, not dangerous and those ones who “come to hand”, usually they are our family and close relatives. Thus we hurt our dear ones. One of the best ways is to express your anger to the person who is the source of this very anger. If it is impossible- better find some compromise.

3. Restraining anger you “drive” it deep inside. So, negative emotions store will provoke a big stress sooner or later.

4. You may foresee situation of anger feeling, try not to expand this feeling but get to know the reason, understand and solve it. A Roman philosopher Seneca said: “When you are feeling of ascending “volcano”- stand still, not doing anything- not speaking, not moving.”

Anger is a normal and natural human feeling, especially nowadays as life is really fast and we have a huge amount of information to accumulate (in comparison with our previous generations). The range of anger is rather wide: from a slight annoyance to impetuous fury. Anger can be quick and long, lasting for years in form of bitterness, vengeance or hate. Anger can lead to health issues like depression, high blood pressure, hearth diseases, stresses, alcohol dependence and obesity. If you are anger- express it. If you feel discomfort from these “negative splashes”- then we can give some techniques how to manage your emotional anger:

  • 1. Take a deep and continuous breath. Count up to 50 or imagine your aggressor just naked, only in socks. This will help you to calm and smile.

  • 2. Have a walk. Look at high sky. Continue to breathe deep and easily. So you appraise the situation and calm down.

  • 3. Do some physical exercises. When you are angry- your body is very tensed and tough. If you stretch your muscles it will relax your body, as you will spill out all your negative energy into action. Your brains will get more oxygen and it assists to clear your thoughts.

  • 4. Write down all your thoughts. Write down that you are mad and why. Avoid being rational, logical or laconic. Write on paper all you are feeling this moment. Try to write all in details. The function of this technique is to shift all your anger out of your head on paper.

  • 5. Be grateful. Find someone to thank. Do you not forget about yourself. Thank that you have woken up today, thank that that the Sun is shining for you, that the sky is blue and the grass is green.

  • 6. Prayer. Ask God to be with you during this anger moment and lead you.

  • 7. Meditation. Close your eyes, look into solar plexus, and be all your anger, breathing deeply.

  • 8. Change of places. Move yourself on your enemy’s place. And look at situation from his point of view. Better look at the situation from the ceiling. Focus on details, especially on funny and absurd ones. Strive to forgive your enemy as well as forgive truly yourself.

  • 9. Go back to your childhood memories. Recollect state when you were angry. Hug this child and say: “All is ok. I am here. You are good child. I love you and I will not leave you.”

  • 10. Your values. What is the most significant thing in your life? Who are the most important people in your life? What kind of person do you want to be? Think and accept that point that you are living your life, and you are living your values. There is a good man inside you that wants to help you. I wish you good luck!

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Wednesday, September 14, 2011

Spiritual Counseling: Law of Manifesting

Abundance exists all around you; leaves on the trees, blades of grass in the fields, insects, birds, air, earth, water in the ocean, cells in your body, atoms in the cells, and on and on. In the world of form, there is unlimited abundance. So, there's no need to "create abundance" because, in truth, abundance is all there is. What you can do, however, is create abundance in the forms that you choose, such as financial income.

The key to manifesting abundance for yourself is to begin by identifying and being grateful for the abundance that is already in your life. Even if you are in dire straits, you can certainly be grateful for the air that you breathe through your lungs, for being alive, having your health, being able to walk, see, or hear. Simple things that we tend to overlook can be seen as abundance in our lives such as a having cup of tea and a sandwich for lunch. As you begin to be thankful for the abundance that already is, you will begin to naturally attract more abundance to you in the forms that you intend.

Manifesting abundance begins with a thought. Once the creative thought is determined, you'll want to add some positive, heart-based emotion to that thought just as you would water a germinated seed. For example, if your creative thought is to start a new business venture, then you'll want to be filled with excitement and joy at the possibility of making this simple thought a reality. That's the second step; emotion.

The third part of the manifesting equation is visualization. Begin and end each day by spending a few minutes in a quiet, meditative state where you are visualizing your new business grow, take off, and become a success. Visualize your customers or clients, and your interaction with them. Visualize your bank account increasing from $5,000 to $10,000 to $50,000 to $100,000 until you reach a number that you're happy with. Remember, when it comes to manifesting, the sky is the limit.

The fourth element in the manifesting equation is to take action. This begins by having a solid, practical, and organized plan to take your business from start to success. So, you'll want to begin writing down all of your ideas and then reviewing them. Goal-setting with dates is also very important. Make sure you separate short-term goals from long-term goals.

After these four steps are completed, you'll be ready to apply the fifth and most important step of the equation; belief. Without belief, the prior four steps will not matter. You have to believe in your creative thought in order for it to become your reality. This means not reacting or resisting to temporary failures or setbacks. Every new venture will always show signs of failure, usually on every major step of the way. Belief will allow your mind to stay focused on the here and now and not be deluded by what may or may not happen in the future. As long as your business is still up and running, you will always have the potential for success, no matter how bad things seem to be.

And so, the law of manifesting equations is as follows: thought + emotion + visualization + action + belief = manifested reality. Personal Life Coach, Jason Lincoln Jeffers, is the founder of The Art of Transformation, a company devoted to teaching Self Realization to the world. His Personal Life Coaching practice uniquely synthesizes ancient spiritual wisdom with ego transcendence, wellness coaching, predictive astro-analysis, pain-body counseling, heart-based manifestation, and relationship coaching.

1 comment:

John Robson said...

I was really satisfied and well informed while reading the post. Good job and hope to inject myself the rightful key to manifesting abundance. And yes! It is to begin by identifying and being grateful for the abundance that is already in one's life.