10 ways to control your anger - Professional expert’s advice

I am really emotional and excitable person. I think that there are two types of anger: constructive anger and a destructive one. In order to understand the anger phenomenon I decided to investigate the nature of anger, reasons of its appearing, key factors and anger management.

What does it mean this anger? Anger is a strong indignation feeling of our emotional sphere that is attended by self-control losing. Anger is a signal of our state. Glands produce an array of hormones that have a great and deep effect on all our body. The main participants of this process are adrenaline and cortisol. They activate cardiovascular system and consequently all organs. Adrenalin causes fast heart beating, rising blood pressure. These rich oxygenated blood streams to the places are responsible for reaction. Thus some extra energy is released.

There are 4 basic ways of anger expressions:

1. Straight and immediately (verbally or nonverbally) to show your anger. It gives an opportunity to free from the negative emotions.

2. To express anger in an indirect way. In this case usually suffer persons that are weaker, not dangerous and those ones who “come to hand”, usually they are our family and close relatives. Thus we hurt our dear ones. One of the best ways is to express your anger to the person who is the source of this very anger. If it is impossible- better find some compromise.

3. Restraining anger you “drive” it deep inside. So, negative emotions store will provoke a big stress sooner or later.

4. You may foresee situation of anger feeling, try not to expand this feeling but get to know the reason, understand and solve it. A Roman philosopher Seneca said: “When you are feeling of ascending “volcano”- stand still, not doing anything- not speaking, not moving.”

Anger is a normal and natural human feeling, especially nowadays as life is really fast and we have a huge amount of information to accumulate (in comparison with our previous generations). The range of anger is rather wide: from a slight annoyance to impetuous fury. Anger can be quick and long, lasting for years in form of bitterness, vengeance or hate. Anger can lead to health issues like depression, high blood pressure, hearth diseases, stresses, alcohol dependence and obesity. If you are anger- express it. If you feel discomfort from these “negative splashes”- then we can give some techniques how to manage your emotional anger:

  • 1. Take a deep and continuous breath. Count up to 50 or imagine your aggressor just naked, only in socks. This will help you to calm and smile.

  • 2. Have a walk. Look at high sky. Continue to breathe deep and easily. So you appraise the situation and calm down.

  • 3. Do some physical exercises. When you are angry- your body is very tensed and tough. If you stretch your muscles it will relax your body, as you will spill out all your negative energy into action. Your brains will get more oxygen and it assists to clear your thoughts.

  • 4. Write down all your thoughts. Write down that you are mad and why. Avoid being rational, logical or laconic. Write on paper all you are feeling this moment. Try to write all in details. The function of this technique is to shift all your anger out of your head on paper.

  • 5. Be grateful. Find someone to thank. Do you not forget about yourself. Thank that you have woken up today, thank that that the Sun is shining for you, that the sky is blue and the grass is green.

  • 6. Prayer. Ask God to be with you during this anger moment and lead you.

  • 7. Meditation. Close your eyes, look into solar plexus, and be all your anger, breathing deeply.

  • 8. Change of places. Move yourself on your enemy’s place. And look at situation from his point of view. Better look at the situation from the ceiling. Focus on details, especially on funny and absurd ones. Strive to forgive your enemy as well as forgive truly yourself.

  • 9. Go back to your childhood memories. Recollect state when you were angry. Hug this child and say: “All is ok. I am here. You are good child. I love you and I will not leave you.”

  • 10. Your values. What is the most significant thing in your life? Who are the most important people in your life? What kind of person do you want to be? Think and accept that point that you are living your life, and you are living your values. There is a good man inside you that wants to help you. I wish you good luck!

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Thursday, March 06, 2008

10 Greatest discoveries and masterpieces done after dreams

The influence of dreams on our civilization has quite various aspects and many scientists keep trying to explain them. They create and prove theories but all of a sudden the theories begin ruining and again and again wise men try to find explanations to what we see in time of dreaming.

The only fact that cannot be debated is that when dreaming you switch off your conscious and subconscious comes to rule.
The dreaming can appear a serious means for solving vital problems. When we get the gift of Morpheus our conscious gets free of limited boring life. Everything is possible in the world of dreaming. The things we used to refuse in reality we easily accept while dreaming. But some men don’t refuse what they see during dreams. Great masterpieces and discoveries appeared because these people could accept their dreams and apply their ideas in real life.

  • 1. Nostradamus used to see most of our future in his dreams. He described these things in his well known quatrains. Now we have his great works and try to prevent some incidents we don’t want to see in the future.

  • 2. An outstanding chemist Dmitry Mendeleev saw his periodical table when dreaming. He was working for a long time but something prevented him from finishing the table. He could see relations between elements but he could not build the table using them. And after a happy dreaming he quickly woke up and began drawing his dream on the paper. The table was completed.

  • 3. The Violin Sonata in G minor, more famously known as the Devil's Trill Sonata by Guiseppe Tartini is still one of magnificent musical compositions, technically hard to play. It started when Tartini saw the Devil in his dreams. The Devil asked Tartini to be his music teacher. At the end of the lesson Tartini handed him the violin and asked to play something in purpose to try the devil’s talent. The devil started playing and played so virtuously that Tartini was struck. After waking up the composer tried to write all he had heard and now the humankind has a great musical masterpiece. But Tartini assured that the composition differed from original very greatly.

  • 4. Niels Henrik David Bohr also saw his famous model of atom in his dreams about planets coming round Sun.

  • 5. Friedrich August Kekule von Stradonitz was very nervous trying to solve a riddle of benzene molecule. It lacked the hydrogen atoms but he could not find the solution. He dreamed that he was at a ball. Molecules were dancing and some of them looked like snakes. Suddenly one of them bit its tail. And this image got into Kekule’s mind so that the molecule structure contained a six-membered ring of carbon atoms. “Let’s see dreams”, he said.

  • 6. Otto Loewi discovered the process of nervous system. Using this process nervous system regulates heart breaking. He dreamed of an experiment and he recognized that transmissions of nerve impulses are chemical, not electrical. But the joke was when he wrote his dream he couldn’t make it out. He said that day was the most horrible in his life and all day he spent trying to remember what he had dreamt. Nevertheless, at the end of all he won the Noble Prize for what he saw once while dreaming.

  • 7. One ever interested in spirit and souls knows Divine Comedy by Dante Alighieri. Most of his masterpiece Italian Master saw when dreaming.

  • 8. Do you like costumes you wear? It’s hard to believe but the old sewing machines were hard to use. One American tailor named Elias Howe was trying to work out his first sewing machine. But the needle of it was quite hard to use for its eye was either in the middle of a needle or at the top of it. Elias had a terrible nightmare: he was caught by cannibals threatening to eat him unless he invented a new model of machine. He saw that the spears in cannibals’ arms had eyes at the end of weapon. When awaking, he drew a new machine model the one tailors use nowadays.

  • 9. A Hungarian writer Laszlo Biro used to make his shirts dirty with ink and he was very cross with this fact. So, in 1938 he dreamed that many men were staring at his work outside and annoying him very much. He took his gun and tried to shoot but only ink appeared out of the gun. After Biro had woken up, he began writing down the balls he saw and making calculations. So the world was presented a ball pen.

  • 10. Alan Huang had many attempts to make an optical schema for Bell Laboratories in the early 90s. The schema would give possibility to change all electronics inside a computer. Alan saw the same dream over and over again as mailmen were carrying mails moving along corridors. But at a cross of corridors they always had traffic jam. But, happily, one day he dreamt that all mailmen started passing through one another like ghosts. And Alan understood the photons but not electrons have such property. Now all optical computers use this peculiarity.

Dreaming is a natural finish of every passed day. They say a dream recovers one’s health and strength. But at the same time repeating nightmare can take man’s patience away for a long time. No matter how it happens, try to see the reverse side of this for a nightmare may be a signal for something or a solution for some special problem of yours. Let’s see dreams…


Ian Denny said...

I really relate to that. I often wake with answers to problems I just could not solve during the day.

And I action them.

It's so true!

Reboot said...

1. Nostradamus - I still question him because it happened so long ago and so many of is quatrains[sic] could be interpreted in so many ways. I do admit that the Himler quatrain (among a very few others) are provocative.

3. Guiseppe Tartini - very interesting. Reminds me of the song "Devil went down to Georgia" by The Charlie Daniels Band (I wonder if there's a relationship here). Also, if you ever read the writings of Zecharia Sitchin regarding ancient astronauts, you'll note that it was Enki (The Devil) that was very helpful toward humans, helping them in many ways including information on how to build the ark and survive the flood. I'm not saying it's true, just saying that many people think that eventually theories from various other studies can be tied together - perhaps - to help us find some real truths.

Good article, I enjoyed reading it but for discussions of this type, sources are very important. Looking forward to your next article but first... 'To sleep... perchance to dream'...