10 ways to control your anger - Professional expert’s advice


I am really emotional and excitable person. I think that there are two types of anger: constructive anger and a destructive one. In order to understand the anger phenomenon I decided to investigate the nature of anger, reasons of its appearing, key factors and anger management.

What does it mean this anger? Anger is a strong indignation feeling of our emotional sphere that is attended by self-control losing. Anger is a signal of our state. Glands produce an array of hormones that have a great and deep effect on all our body. The main participants of this process are adrenaline and cortisol. They activate cardiovascular system and consequently all organs. Adrenalin causes fast heart beating, rising blood pressure. These rich oxygenated blood streams to the places are responsible for reaction. Thus some extra energy is released.



There are 4 basic ways of anger expressions:



1. Straight and immediately (verbally or nonverbally) to show your anger. It gives an opportunity to free from the negative emotions.



2. To express anger in an indirect way. In this case usually suffer persons that are weaker, not dangerous and those ones who “come to hand”, usually they are our family and close relatives. Thus we hurt our dear ones. One of the best ways is to express your anger to the person who is the source of this very anger. If it is impossible- better find some compromise.



3. Restraining anger you “drive” it deep inside. So, negative emotions store will provoke a big stress sooner or later.



4. You may foresee situation of anger feeling, try not to expand this feeling but get to know the reason, understand and solve it. A Roman philosopher Seneca said: “When you are feeling of ascending “volcano”- stand still, not doing anything- not speaking, not moving.”



Anger is a normal and natural human feeling, especially nowadays as life is really fast and we have a huge amount of information to accumulate (in comparison with our previous generations). The range of anger is rather wide: from a slight annoyance to impetuous fury. Anger can be quick and long, lasting for years in form of bitterness, vengeance or hate. Anger can lead to health issues like depression, high blood pressure, hearth diseases, stresses, alcohol dependence and obesity. If you are anger- express it. If you feel discomfort from these “negative splashes”- then we can give some techniques how to manage your emotional anger:




  • 1. Take a deep and continuous breath. Count up to 50 or imagine your aggressor just naked, only in socks. This will help you to calm and smile.



  • 2. Have a walk. Look at high sky. Continue to breathe deep and easily. So you appraise the situation and calm down.

  • 3. Do some physical exercises. When you are angry- your body is very tensed and tough. If you stretch your muscles it will relax your body, as you will spill out all your negative energy into action. Your brains will get more oxygen and it assists to clear your thoughts.

  • 4. Write down all your thoughts. Write down that you are mad and why. Avoid being rational, logical or laconic. Write on paper all you are feeling this moment. Try to write all in details. The function of this technique is to shift all your anger out of your head on paper.

  • 5. Be grateful. Find someone to thank. Do you not forget about yourself. Thank that you have woken up today, thank that that the Sun is shining for you, that the sky is blue and the grass is green.

  • 6. Prayer. Ask God to be with you during this anger moment and lead you.

  • 7. Meditation. Close your eyes, look into solar plexus, and be all your anger, breathing deeply.

  • 8. Change of places. Move yourself on your enemy’s place. And look at situation from his point of view. Better look at the situation from the ceiling. Focus on details, especially on funny and absurd ones. Strive to forgive your enemy as well as forgive truly yourself.

  • 9. Go back to your childhood memories. Recollect state when you were angry. Hug this child and say: “All is ok. I am here. You are good child. I love you and I will not leave you.”

  • 10. Your values. What is the most significant thing in your life? Who are the most important people in your life? What kind of person do you want to be? Think and accept that point that you are living your life, and you are living your values. There is a good man inside you that wants to help you. I wish you good luck!



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Our beliefs are the most powerful manifesting tool we have. Without belief, no amount of thought or emotion would be able to manifest as a single form. When we fail to believe in what we are attempting to create, we fail to create. It's that simple. The law of attraction does not work on thoughts alone, no matter what you've read or heard. It can't. Thoughts are only the beginning of the equation. The second part is emotion. Thoughts combined with emotions become very powerful indeed. But the third and most important part of the equation of creation is belief. And so summed up, the law of attraction equation is as follows:

Thoughts + Emotion + Belief = Reality

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Creative thoughts, of course, are necessary to initiate an idea but that is only the first step. A metaphor for thought in the equation is much like the spark that ignites the fire. It's not the fire and it's not the fuel that burns the fire. It's just the initial spark. Your emotions, whether positive or negative, are also obligatory, but even thoughts combined with emotions are not enough to construct the reality that you intend. A metaphor for emotion in the equation is much like the paper or kindling you use to get the fire going. It's enough to expand the spark but certainly not enough to keep the fire steadily burning.

The true power of intention must be completed with the belief that you can create whatever it is your heart desires. And this is the final element in the equation for the law of attraction. Belief is like the logs that you put on your fire to keep it burning bright. Throw on some big logs on top of the kindling and see what happens. Now that's fuel for the fire!

Anything you can imagine is on the menu but the universe can only cook up what you've ordered. This means that negative thoughts combined with negative emotions combined with belief in those negative thoughts and emotions will be just as powerful at manifesting your reality as a positive-based equation. But of course, you would have to be unconscious to do such a thing. Unfortunately, most of humanity is doing this right now, both individually and collectively. The universe is simply serving to us precisely what we're ordering. It all begins with a thought. Then add emotion. Finish it off with belief. And there you have your reality. Positive or negative; the universe doesn't discriminate. But we have a choice. Personal Life Coach, Jason Lincoln Jeffers, is the founder of The Art of Transformation, a company devoted to teaching Spiritual Enlightenment to the world. His Personal Life Coaching program uniquely combines ancient spiritual wisdom with self transcendence, wellness coaching, predictive astro-analysis, pain-body counseling, heart-based manifestation, and relationship coaching.


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